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  Ultimate JW Moron...or is that an oxymoron??

  by kevin221 in

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  things that make you go hmmm???.

  i guess it's a good thing my trip to greece has been postponed.. as i suspected jons' father is disputing his will.

  i'm not surprised, just irritated that i have to deal with this non person for one more day than neccesary.

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  California Sunshine

  Hi Kevin,

  Oh I see, he shunned Jon, but he is not shunning Jon's money. Go figuer?

  I wonder if Jon's Dad has considered the possibility of what he did to Jon (the disowning and the shunning) coming out in court. Laying it all out for everyone to look at. But then he was only being a good JW. I suppose and it probably won't bother him a bit.

  You were very generous to think of giving Jon's Dad some of his things. Circumstances being what they are. To have some sympathy for the person who hurt your Jon so much tells me lots about you.

  So sorry you are going through this. Especially at a time when you are grieving.

  My thoughts are with you

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  How Long???

  by Xena in

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  i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.

  that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.

  but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!

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  California Sunshine

  **************Harumpf. They're not your REAL friends if they're 'fairweather friends.'***************

  Right on Lisa....how can a TRUE JW possibly have a friend? A true friend loves ya "Worts and All". Looks beyond your faults and sees the good in you. They would never desert you. I HATE this shunning thing beyond words. Unbelievable the damage it does to families.

  Zena, I feel for you. You have to do what you think is the best for your baby and you. Tough decisions. TAKE YOUR TIME!

  Keep the picture, you are cute as can be in it.

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  New Here

  by AlmightyPrincess in

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  i just thought i'd drop a note.

  i have been reading these boards for over 2 maybe 3 weeks, and a couple days ago registered.

  even though i have never posted i feel like i know a lot of you already.

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  California Sunshine

  Welcome,

  Stick around, you will be glad you did.

  Lots of good people here (as you already know). Have questions? Ask away. Someone will have an answer....orrrr an opinion for you.

  Will be looking for your posts

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  Persuasion: Did we forget what we learned as JWs?

  by larc in

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  as jws we learned a lot about persuasion and how to get people to accept our ideas.

  we had role plays on over coming objections.

  we were taught how to anticipate typical questions and respond to them.

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  Larc,

  Well said..

  Waiting,

  I agree, Customer service is everything.

  ...Its not what you say, its HOW you say it

  Does this mean I have to be nice to YouKnow now?

  Darn....I'll try!

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  Email to my Dad on the UN / Prison Stories

  by msil in

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  ok......it has taken me lots of soul searching to put this post up (it contains some facts i dont really feel all that comfortable putting up).

  but i will try and leave out here for as long as i can.. it is an email i have sent to my dad.

  it is a followup - he has some of the info on the un already.

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  California Sunshine

  Dear Msil,

  Here I am again. I can't resist this thread. When I sit down to my computer it calls to me. I want to see if you have posted another story to share. Your storys have touched me so. Thank you so much for writing them. If you choose to write a book I would be the first one in line to buy a copy.

  You spoke of heros. I think the true heros in life are the ones who do what they think is right no matter the personal cost. So you see, you ARE a hero in my book.

  You said you loved my name. It took me a long time to choose it. I've been away from the JWs for a long long time. Half of my family is still in the borg. In Sept'81 an article came out in the WT talking about how they should treat DF and Disa persons and although I was neither they decided I was to be shunned. I can never tell you how much that hurt me. I even called my niece who I had loved and cared for as if she were my own baby and asked her if I knocked on her door and she knew it was me that I wouldn't be welcome? She told me no, I wasn't welcome. I felt like I was put in a dark cellar by my family. It took me years to realize I had done nothing wrong and it was their mean hearts (drivin by the WTS) that had made that decision. I realized that I was the lucky one. I was not living in fear (because that is how the GB controls their members) anymore, I was free. I walked out of that dark cellar and into the beautiful sunshine of the freedom of the life I have now.

  Gosh I hope I have written this well enough for you to understand. I don't write nearly as well as you do.

  The "Shawshank Redemption" is one of my favorite movies. I agree that Morgan Freeman should have won an Oscar for his performance. He is one of the great actors of our day.

  Don't put yourself down for not having more of a formal education. The "school of hard knocks" is a very good teacher and the lessons are never forgotten. A also believe that reading is the key to learning. I never tire of it.

  All good things are wished for you today

  Hugs, J

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  Email to my Dad on the UN / Prison Stories

  by msil in

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  ok......it has taken me lots of soul searching to put this post up (it contains some facts i dont really feel all that comfortable putting up).

  but i will try and leave out here for as long as i can.. it is an email i have sent to my dad.

  it is a followup - he has some of the info on the un already.

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  Msil,

  The comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thought or measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are..........

  courage, my friend....we are here with you

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  for married people only

  by teejay in

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  there's a running debate i have going with my wife.

  i have the opinion that it is very possible for married people to have friends of the opposite sex without the idea of a sexual encounter entering into the picture.

  she disagrees, saying that once you're married, the marriage mate should be enough to offer you all you need in the way of companionship, conversation,etc.. let's say you're running an errand at the mall and happen to see someone of the opposite sex that you have known for years (your mate knows/doesn't know them... doesn't matter) and you decide to grab a cup of coffee and have a two-hour chat.

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  I sometimes think that trust is almost more important than love in a marriage. If you don't have trust you have nothing.

  Although my husband is my best and most loving friend we both have other men and women friends. Whats the big deal here?

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  Email to my Dad on the UN / Prison Stories

  by msil in

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  ok......it has taken me lots of soul searching to put this post up (it contains some facts i dont really feel all that comfortable putting up).

  but i will try and leave out here for as long as i can.. it is an email i have sent to my dad.

  it is a followup - he has some of the info on the un already.

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  MSIL,

  Stories like yours break my heart. I'm so sorry you were made to suffer like that. You were only a kid of 16 too. No wonder you carry scars.

  I second what Kent had to say. Letting it out really helps.

  You are among people who care

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  How to nullify Scriptural Reason For Remarriage

  by Kent in

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  this cuote is from the letter to bodies of elders of may 15.

  1988. what is acceptable evidence of scriptural freedom to remarry?

  hearsay or strong suspicion that one's mate.

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  jschwehm,

  LOL.....LOL.....LOL....LOL....

  To everyone but the poor guy whos car got hit this is a a great story. You get the humor award of the day.

  I hope that unholy hypocrite of a JW got the book thrown at him!

  Kent..

  Thanks for the info. I just get disgusted when I read the way the JWs invade every aspect of the members lives. I divorced a sorry excuse of a man who was a JW and married one of those nasty non believers. Been happy ever since. I've been out for along time but still have family in. Your informative posts help me to try to understand thier mindset.

  minds are like parachutes--they only function when open.
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  A special announcement

  by Jehovah_God in

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  2. friends

  due to your abuse of the privelege, all fun has been forbidden until further notice.

  that is all..

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  California Sunshine

  For Heaven's sake (a unintended pun) God....

  Get a life..........BBBBOOOORRRIIINNNGGGG!!!!!